Lately I’ve been angry about something, and it feels good to
finally be getting it out there. This
has nothing to do with my writing, but it does deal with words and the power
they hold. I’m sure we’ve all heard by
now how Rush Limbaugh spent three days on his radio show talking about Sandra
Fluke and her testimony before Congress.
She made the point that the pill can potentially be expensive for
someone in college, and that the pill is often used to treat a medical
condition. These things are true. Are there cheap off brand versions available? Yes, of course. Then again, your doctor decides on your
prescription, and some of the off brands don’t work for everyone. If you’re one of these women, costs can add
up. That being said, should insurance
companies be mandated to pay for these prescriptions in their entirety? This is the question we should be focusing
on. Instead, this issue has turned into
a mudslinging match of the worst kind.
Now, as a writer, I’m glad that we have freedom of
speech. It’s a wonderful thing, and
every time I hear about people wanting to impose limitations on that freedom, I
get very nervous. If we lose that right,
we may as well give up everything else as far as I’m concerned. You can’t have real freedom if you can’t
express yourself. And when Rush Limbaugh
made his comments about Sandra Fluke, calling her a “slut” and a “prostitute,”
he was certainly exercising his right to free speech. You’ll never catch me disputing that. Does that make what he said right? No.
Let me explain my position.
I never subscribed to the saying “Sticks and stones may break my bones,
but words will never hurt me.” That’s
complete crap. Bullies say horrible
things precisely because they
hurt. The best we can do is not let the
mean-spirited words of others get under our skin, which is much easier said
than done. I know this all too well. The bullying I endured as a kid helped shape
me into the person I am today.
So I can say this with confidence. Words are powerful. They can persuade, inspire, create, and
destroy. “The pen is mightier than the
sword.” This is a saying I can get
behind, except, of course, someone’s actually making fun of me from the corner
of a room while someone’s impaling me with a sword. That is one instance where I may be inclined
to change my position on this.
Rush used the words he did because he knew they were laced
with powerful meaning. He knew they
would get a reaction. I’m sure he said
what he did to be funny, and many people did find it funny. I won’t dispute that either. However, his choice of words angered many,
including me, because it suggested a belief that many no longer find
acceptable: if a woman is sexually
active, it’s okay to call her a slut. It’s
not, in my humble opinion. He even suggested
that he’d pay to give girls aspirin to put between their knees. Yes, sex is something that should be handled
with careful consideration, but let’s not pretend that having sex immediately
invalidates her right to be treated with dignity and respect. Women
shouldn’t be denigrated over their sexual choices, especially if men won’t
be.
A definite misstep was his calculation of how much sex
Sandra must have been having to spend $3000 in three years of school. First of all, she said it could cost that much, not that it did
for her personally. Second, we’re
talking about the birth control pill. I never thought I’d have to take the time
to say this, but you take one pill a day.
The cost is the same no matter how many times you have sex over that
three year period. While reading the
comments sections of articles dealing with this issue, I was stunned by how
many people didn’t seem to know this.
Third, he said that the taxpayers would be her pimps for paying her to
have sex. Tax dollars wouldn’t cover the
cost of contraception. Insurance
companies would. If anything, insurance
premiums would go up, and I've even heard just as many people saying that they'd actually go down due to the decrease in unwanted pregnancies. I don’t know how
it would all work because I’m not an expert at these things, nor am I a fortune teller. However, if we’re going to have the
conversation, I’d at least like to get it right about what's actually at stake.
What Limbaugh did in using this language, besides hurting
Fluke’s feelings, is distract us from the issue at hand. There are a lot of valid questions to be
asked, but they’re not really being asked or answered because of the
controversy that sprung forth from this.
In an article entitled “Pills For Sluts?: Sixquestions for Rush Limbaugh about sex,promiscuity, and contraception,” William Saletan talks about some of the
questions Limbaugh has raised, whether advertently or inadvertently, and should
discuss.
1.What’s the problem with
contraceptive insurance: socialism or promiscuity?
2. How much sex is too much?
3. Is contraception a sex
enabler?
4. What consequences should a
woman face for having sex?
5. Is pregnancy prevention a
legitimate medical need?
6. What responsibility should
men bear?
These are good questions, and I recommend you read his
article to hear what he has to say about them.
There is also, of course, the question that brought this about in the
first place. Does requiring religious institutions
to provide insurance coverage that includes contraception infringe on religious
liberty.
I’m all for having a good, honest debate about these
issues, and I want to know people’s thoughts on these questions. However, the way that Rush handled it in no way
promoted civil discourse. Of course,
that wasn’t his intention. He’s an
entertainer, and as such, we have to expect this from him. However, he also bears a responsibility in
choosing his words. People turn to him
for information as well, so while he’ll undoubtedly put his spin on it
according to his personal opinion, as he is free to do, responsibility also
indicates he should at least be factual in the information he provides. He’s doing more than entertaining, after all.
Now, do I believe he should be fired for what he
said? No. His words may have been irresponsible, or
merely poorly chosen, but he is free to say these things whether we like it or
not. That’s the beauty of America. At the same time, he is representing his
employer, so they are free to fire him if they want to. Just as his advertisers are free to keep
walking away if they want. The
advertisers who have walked away understand the power of his words as well as
anyone, and they don’t want the beliefs reflected in those words to cast a bad
light on them. Rush and other people
like him have to be prepared for this kind of reaction, because that’s the
responsibility that comes along with his word choices.
Now, he’s since apologized for his words. Is he sincere? Or is he bowing to the pressure? The fact that he went on a three day long
rant before backing down suggests an answer, but who knows? He may actually mean it. As an entertainer, he pushes the envelope
further because he needs to hold an audience.
Sincere or not, he still has to live with the consequences of what he
said.
I only hope this mess settles down so we can answer
the important questions that have been raised.
We need debate. We need
solutions. As much fun as it’s been
arguing over whether Rush went to far, let’s focus now on what actually
matters.
Thanks for visiting me. Your post is so well written I have to genuflect. It gave me pause to think and that is what good writing is all about. Bravo! The meaning behind the words are very important. Often the answer to your questions come from not what is said but what is left unsaid. You keep referring to Rush as an ENTERTAINER, make no mistake, to an entire conglomerate of people he is delivering the news,factual and unbiased. That means his words are like a double edged sword to many. Once Rush said it many people took it as gospel. The big picture is that he has reduced women's rights back to the pre-dawn caveman mentality. Did you know that the Veteran's Administration pays for Viagra for our Vets? I don't see us having an intelligent discussion or debate over that. I don't hear anyone asking that these men getting free viagra to make a video nor or they being called sluts or worse. It's not what Rush said that is important it is what he's not saying.
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I agree. If we're going to have a debate over contraception, the Viagra issue also needs to be debated. It's only fair. If men and women are going to be equals, we can't tolerate the double standards. And I know a few people who see take the things Rush says as gospel. That's one of the reasons I wrote this post.
ReplyDeleteThanks for visiting my blog. I look forward to reading more from you in the future.
Agreed. Adam and I actually had a good discussion about that yesterday while we went shopping. Personally, if women's birth control pills had the same accessibility as Tylenol, where you can go into a store and grab it off of the shelf, then sure, I don't see a reason to have the government pay for it. However, it's a prescription medication and I believe it's wrong for the government or insurance companies to discriminate. Sadly people like Rush who say these things have the mentality that just because a woman is on birth control, she's apparently having sex with different partners multiple times a day. At least that's what I get from people like that. They don't understand the medical benefits that women get from birth control, and many times, a woman is on it because her periods are simply unbearable and I've been on birth control several times for that specific reason. Also skin issues like acne can be greatly helped by the pill.
ReplyDeleteI agree fully with what Debra stated above. His comments really are shrinking women's rights to an era we should be far evolved from. It's entirely true, and it's sickening that the floodgates have been opened even further about the close-minded assumption that sexually active women are just "sluts".
Obviously we still have a long way to go in the fight for equal rights as men, apparently. However, I know Rush is learning his lesson the hard way about how powerful his words are. While entitled to have his opinion, his blind name-calling was so middle school and childish.
When I first heard what he said, the first thing I thought about was the language I always heard in middle school. And this was coming from a grown man who is supposed to know better. Geez.
ReplyDeleteJamon used to think that women were already treated equally, but he's starting to realize that isn't true in all cases. Every time I see an effort made to reduce the power of women, I feel outraged. Rush has the right to speak out, yes, and he has a larger forum than I do, but I still have just as much right to speak out against his hideous comments. I intend to continue doing just that.